Changing the Conversation Around Childhood Trauma and Abuse Survivors
Survivors of childhood trauma and abuse often face dismissive and victim-blaming attitudes. Phrases like “stop focusing on the past,” “get over it,” and “you’re just making yourself the victim” are not only hurtful but also harmful. They undermine the survivor’s experience and further perpetuate their pain. These responses are especially damaging as they shift the blame onto the survivor and dismiss the severity of their trauma.
Words Matter, Actions Matter More
Living with the aftermath of childhood trauma and abuse is an uphill battle. Every day is a struggle, and it’s often made harder by well-meaning but ultimately useless platitudes like “Hang in there.” These words, meant to comfort, can sometimes feel dismissive and disheartening. For those who love us and want to help, understanding how to use language more effectively can be a powerful tool.
Mental Illness Stigma Needs To Stop
Mental illness is an uninvited guest that lingers in the shadows of many lives, often invisible to the untrained eye. As someone who has navigated the murky waters of mental health, stemming from 13 years of childhood displacement, trauma, and abuse, I know all too well the importance of being seen and accepted. Yet, our […]
Unmasking the “Stop Playing the Victim” Gaslighting Tactic
The phrase “stop playing the victim” is often wielded as a tool of gaslighting against survivors of trauma. Those who use it frequently have little understanding of how trauma works and harbor misguided notions about the healing process. It’s a pernicious statement that invalidates the survivor’s experience and perpetuates a cycle of abuse and violence, often under the guise of ‘tough love’ or misguided authority.
Unveiling the Darkness Within Nightmares and Night Terrors in Trauma Survivors
Turning the lights off at night is a seemingly simple daily act for many. It signals the eventual soothing descent into darkness and slumber. However, for survivors of trauma and abuse, the night can become a battleground—one where the mind, a powerful repository of anguish, resurrects horrors in the form of nightmares and night terrors.
Such nocturnal episodes, shrouded in mystery, are often dismissed as mere byproducts of a tired mind or an overactive imagination. Yet, these phenomena harbor secrets that demand our attention, especially within the context of trauma. Nightmares and night terrors are not only harbingers of hidden trauma, they are messengers beckoning us to confront the shadows of the past. Let’s unravel the enigma of these disturbing nocturnal experiences and propose a deeper, more compassionate understanding of their role in the healing process of trauma survivors.
The Healing Power of Taylor Swift’s “Look What You Made Me Do” for Child Abuse Survivors
Child abuse is a global phenomenon that has far-reaching effects not just on vulnerable children, but also on adult survivors. Its impact can show up in many ways, including chronic illnesses, emotional scars, and a tendency to revisit traumatic events. Survivors of child abuse are often forced to internalize the blame, resulting in a phenomenon […]
Breaking the Cycle of Abuse: A Guide for Survivors
Childhood abuse leaves lasting scars on survivors, and the impact can last for generations. Those who experience trauma as children are more likely to grow up to be abusive themselves or entangled in toxic relationships. But, as difficult as it may seem, we can break the cycle of abuse – both for ourselves and for generations to come. This article will provide insights on how to stop the cycle of abuse and break free from the damaging patterns that have been passed down from one generation to another.
PTSD, CPTSD Trauma Survivors in the workplace
I have something to say and I sincerely hope you will listen. It is time to break the stigma against people who have suffered trauma and live with wounds still bleeding and scars not yet fully healed. Invisible wounds that no one can see unless they watch very closely.
PTSD, CPTSD Trauma Survivors and Social Media
Once upon a time a beautiful baby was born to a very troubled woman. This baby was special. She was born with a full head of dark hair and eyes that seemed to be older than time itself.
Having A Bad Day, So This.
This tightening in my chest,
This knot in my stomach,
These unshed tears in my eyes,
This past I cannot escape.