Unmasking the “Stop Playing the Victim” Gaslighting Tactic

The phrase “stop playing the victim” is often wielded as a tool of gaslighting against survivors of trauma. Those who use it frequently have little understanding of how trauma works and harbor misguided notions about the healing process. It’s a pernicious statement that invalidates the survivor’s experience and perpetuates a cycle of abuse and violence, often under the guise of ‘tough love’ or misguided authority.