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Breaking the Silence

What Trauma Survivors Really Need from Society Living with trauma and its aftermath is a battle fought every day. For survivors of trauma and abuse, the road to recovery is often long and filled with challenges that many cannot see or understand. This blog post aims to shed light on what trauma survivors truly need […]

Unmasking the “Stop Playing the Victim” Gaslighting Tactic

The phrase “stop playing the victim” is often wielded as a tool of gaslighting against survivors of trauma. Those who use it frequently have little understanding of how trauma works and harbor misguided notions about the healing process. It’s a pernicious statement that invalidates the survivor’s experience and perpetuates a cycle of abuse and violence, often under the guise of ‘tough love’ or misguided authority.

Unveiling the Darkness Within Nightmares and Night Terrors in Trauma Survivors

Turning the lights off at night is a seemingly simple daily act for many. It signals the eventual soothing descent into darkness and slumber. However, for survivors of trauma and abuse, the night can become a battleground—one where the mind, a powerful repository of anguish, resurrects horrors in the form of nightmares and night terrors.

Such nocturnal episodes, shrouded in mystery, are often dismissed as mere byproducts of a tired mind or an overactive imagination. Yet, these phenomena harbor secrets that demand our attention, especially within the context of trauma. Nightmares and night terrors are not only harbingers of hidden trauma, they are messengers beckoning us to confront the shadows of the past. Let’s unravel the enigma of these disturbing nocturnal experiences and propose a deeper, more compassionate understanding of their role in the healing process of trauma survivors.

Understanding Victim Shaming: A Guide for Adult Survivors of Childhood Abuse

As a survivor of childhood abuse, it can be hard to come to terms with the trauma that you’ve experienced. It can be even harder when those around you don’t understand the complexity of what you’ve been through. Victim shaming is an all too common occurrence that adult survivors of childhood abuse can experience, leading to feelings of shame, guilt, and even self-blame. In this blog post, we will explore victim shaming and how it affects survivors of childhood abuse. We’ll also provide you with a guide to understand and manage victim shaming that can help you on the road to recovery.

Maintaining Autonomy During Trauma Survival

Maintaining autonomy while healing from trauma can be an important aspect for survivors. It is important for survivors to have control over their own healing process and journey. This can be done by setting boundaries and establishing a sense of agency. Survivors can set boundaries with their therapists, friends, and family members in order to maintain a sense of control over their healing journey. Additionally, utilizing self-care techniques and practicing mindfulness can help survivors feel more in control of their own healing. It is also important for survivors to have a support system that respects their autonomy and allows them to make decisions about their own healing. By maintaining autonomy, survivors can reclaim their power, build resilience, and take steps towards healing from their trauma at their own pace.

Having A Bad Day, So This.

This tightening in my chest,
This knot in my stomach,
These unshed tears in my eyes,
This past I cannot escape.

Come With Me

I wrote this as a way to express what I was feeling at the time. This is a work of fiction. I am sort of obsessed with my biological mother’s suicide, but to be clear this is not how it happened, this is simply a story to express myself. – Jess (Phoenix) As I stood, […]

Childhood Conditioning and Stockholm Syndrome

Recently I had a conversation via Facebook with one of my new friends that I have made through this project. Truly I had no idea how creating this Facebook Page, then my blog would affect my life. I have been “meeting” some amazing people and it is a wonderful way to connect and share and […]

The Doorway

“You come back here young lady!” rang the angry voice behind her as she ran out of the dusty old house. “Jessica Lynn!” screamed the shrill voice as she ran down the broken sidewalk to the sanctuary of the small jungle behind the ‘Dead End’ sign at the end of the street. Once inside she would be safe, alone. Her little feet made a pitter-patter sound as they ran, avoiding any cracks in the broken sidewalk. She might not like her mother, but to break her back would be the ultimate sin.